This is one of the books you’re going to want to read once a year. Learn the habits of highly effective and highly successful people!
“Hey guys, Sylvester Morgan here with SylvesterMorgan.com. In this video, let’s talk about the book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.
If you study or follow really successful people, you’ll find that they all have certain things in common. They do things that- they’re very strategic and purposeful about what they do, how they live their life in order to achieve that success. Some people think that’s it’s luck, or that they just have the right circumstances, or they’re just workaholics. They don’t have that work-life balance. But, these things are not true. One of the things that you’ll find that successful people do is that they read. Furthermore, another thing that I’ve found is that there are a number of the books that are classics that they all recommend. So if you’re going to read, why not read the ones that they’re all recommending? And if you go to SylvesterMorgan.com and click on the resources tab, a lot of the books that I have there recommended are those books that I’m talking about.
So this book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People is one that I strongly recommend. It’s one that you’re going to want to read once a year. This is my second or third time reading it and I know in this reading I’ve learned a lot and picked up a lot that I did not get in the first couple of readings. And I plan on reading it next year also. If you’re focused on success in your personal life or in your family or as a parent, or if you’re part of a team or organization, I highly recommend this book. In addition to giving you the seven habits, it’s full of a lot of really good examples and powerful stories. Let me just go through the seven habits very quickly.
The first habit is: be proactive. Don’t be reactive, be proactive. Realize that you are not a victim of your circumstances, of anything that’s happened in your past, or anything that will happen to you. You are responsible. He talks about in the book, you are response-ABLE. You are able to respond to the situation. You can control how you respond to bad things that happen in your life.
The second habit is to begin with the end in mind. You want to have a mission for your life, for your family, for your team, and you want that to be very clear.
The third habit is put first things first, to live out that mission statement and that plan that you’ve come up with, to prioritize your life and to focus on the things that fulfill your mission statement. He breaks it up into 4 quadrants. There are, across the top, there are those things that are not important and then those things that are important. Then down the side there are those things that are urgent and those things that are not urgent. He talks about quadrant 2 being those things that are important but not urgent. That’s where you want to spend most of your time. That’s where you can be living proactively and doing the things that will allow you to achieve success.
For habits 1-3, to give an analogy that will be fitting for this channel, it’s an analogy that he gave in the book. Habit one is to realize that you are the programmer. You are not just given some random program that you have to live by and that you’re a victim of. You are the programmer. Habit 2 is to write the program. Use that ability that you have to write out your own mission statement, to write out your vision, to plan out what success is for you and how can achieve it. Habit 3 is to run the program. Take the things that you’ve planned out- your mission statement, your vision- and live it out. Prioritize your time and your schedule to make room for those things that are important to you, that will allow you to live out your mission statement.
The next 3 habits, 4-6, are focused on working together with other people and other teams. Habit 4 is focusing on finding the win-win or no deal. When you’re working with other people, finding ways that both of you can win or say that there’s no deal. Sometimes we have the mindset that someone has to win and someone has to lose, but that’s not true. It’s not a zero sum game. Find ways that everyone in your family or everyone on your team or in your organization can win.
Habit number 5 is: seek first to understand then to be understood. This one was really convicting for me. Oftentimes we think that we’re good listeners and that we understand how other people are feeling, but we really don’t. Everyone has a different set of circumstances, different values, different experiences, and we oftentimes, and it’s so easy, to take our own lives and what we’ve experienced and apply it to their life. He had a very powerful example of a father and son. The father was just really not listening to the son, and the father was applying his own, he said, “autobiography” to the son’s life. Applying the solutions that applied to his life into his son’s life without ever listening to his son, and getting a deep understanding of what his son was actually going through and feeling. Whether it’s a spouse or a son or a daughter or a parent or a teammate, coworker, really learn how to get a deeper understanding of what the other person is saying first. But, the second part of that is to be understood also. He talks about having both the consideration and the confidence. Have the consideration- consider what the other person is saying, what the other party is saying first. But also have that strength and courage to get your point across also. It’s oftentimes easy to go to one extreme of the other, but you can do both.
Habit number 6 is synergize. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. When you have a lot of people working together on something, they can accomplish a lot more than each person could individually. This was also convicting for me. To really value the differences of different people, whether it’s in a family or in a team, really learn how to appreciate the difference of each member. We may think that the team can work better and more efficiently if everyone thinks the same, but if everyone thinks the same, then you won’t have those different experiences, those different skillsets, those different values, those different backgrounds and perspectives. This is the strength of being able to synergize and bring different people together to accomplish more.
Habit number 7 is to sharpen the saw. This habit is to develop the habit of finding ways to work on each of the other 6 habits. Again, he goes into each of these in great depth. There are a lot of powerful stories and examples that you will really enjoy. I highly recommend if you have not read this book, please read it. If you haven’t read it in a while, it’s time to read it again. Make it a habit of reading this book on a yearly basis. You can find this on Amazon. I’ll leave a link in the description. You can probably find it at your local library or bookstore. And you can also find the audio version of it on Audible as well.
Thank you for watching this video. I hope you get the book. I hope you read it and enjoy it. I’ll see you guys in the next video.”